"Many believers “Christianize” this cultural lie by seeking a godly spouse to satisfy the ache for closeness and belonging. While marriage to a godly man or woman is a good desire worth pursuing, it cannot satisfy the deepest longings of our hungry hearts.
Others believe the lie and, not having a spouse, try to find that love in friendship. Finally, I found someone who gets me, the one with whom I belong: my BFF. But friendship also cannot satisfy the deepest longings of our hungry hearts.
At the root of this lie is a craving for intimacy that we don’t believe God can satisfy. Our unbelief produces a desire to savor every drop of closeness available to us through the people around us."